The Relationship Workshop Program

I work in three main areas when working with couples: Physiology/Personality/Behaviour

• Unless as couples, we know the differences between how men and women think and solve problems it is difficult for us to work together. There are many myths about the couple relationship which I will help you correct.
• I have studied Dr John Gottman’s scientifically based Marital Therapy Program (by distance learning) and I have incorporated/adapted several of his techniques to suit the way I work. You can get more information about the Marriage Clinic at http://www.gottman.com
• At the end of each session you will be given homework to put into practice those new ‘tools’ you are learning.
• “Connect” is a series of workshops—seminars designed for couples who want to have a ‘tune-up.’ Contact me to find out when the next “Connect” seminar is being run.

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Oratia Retreat:

For couples that would like to get their relationship back on track quicker, we offer half and one day intensives from our Oratia, West Auckland retreat.

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Personal Bio

Graham Ure MNZAC, MITAA Cert., Counselling (MIT), NZCS Chemistry, Code of Ethics Used: NZAC & ITAA

I have worked with over 1400 couples and at times have worked with several generations of couples within the same family. So far I have had the priviledge of over 14,000 hours of one to one counseling with couples.

I find working with couples exciting and challenging. Over the years, I have carried out my own research into the workings of stable relationships. As a result of this I am often asked to give presentations to both students and graduates on the way I work with couples.

I have studied and worked with Transactional Analysis (TA) for 9 years through to a masters level. I decided not to sit my final exams because of my busy practice working with couples. I am learning more from them! TA is a theory of personality and behavioural change and is an excellent tools for assisting couples in their quest for a win:win outcome.

Family, History & Life Philosophy

Ailsa & I have been married for 36 years and we have three children (35,30 and 17) and four grand-daughters. We are very fortunate to live on a ten-acre block in Oratia in the Waitakere foothills. For 20 years, I managed Ure Pacific, which had a staff of over 70 people in both New Zealand and Australia. I have learned to respect people as more important than things or tasks. I have been an industrial chemist, a sales manager and a businessman.

I retired at age 42 and chose to study for a new life direction in relationship counselling and business mentoring. My personal passions include: brain chemistry, transactional analysis, facts (statistics), scientific evidence of how couples work and speaking about marriage and relationships. I teach, support and practice the “OK” marriage. (“OK” meaning a relationship which has problems that the couple can work through together). Conflict is another word for ‘opportunity.’ Once we learn to turn our negative dialogue into positive challenges we can succeed in our relationships.

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